I have discovered that the common feuds that exist between a spectator and a player have lived on for as long as I can remember, and solving them won’t be easy without cooperation from the parties involved.
In all genuineness, both perspectives are valid and based on where each one stands. But I guess what matters at the end of the day is how each view can be useful and for what purpose.
At one point or another, everyone has had the “spectator experience.” What differs is how one handles it.
I’ve been a spectator for the greater part of my life, and based on my experience, it’s a lot easier being a spectator than it is being the player. I didn’t mind sitting on a bench, eyes fixed on the field and carelessly throwing comments here and there throughout the game. In fact, it was much more fun that way. All I ever did was point out mistakes, carelessly express my views, vent my frustrations…and I was sure to mention that if I were on the field, I would have done a better job.
In my mind, the spectator and the player were supposed to work together for the sake of the team.
Unfortunately, it seems I was misguided. While the goal for both parties was to win, there was always an obstacle standing in the way of a sound relationship between the two.
The player always felt she was doing her best. After all, she was the one toiling while the spectator felt the player was not putting enough effort.
I believe that where a common goal is shared, differences can always be put aside for the sake of accomplishing the set goal.
Things could have been better if both spectator and player stepped out of their comfort zones and tried on the other’s shoes. Then their perspective would change.
I am here today, though, with a different plea: I wish to be an exceptional player and I believe that when you look at my life, you wish the same for me. So, I admit in all honesty that I need you.
From where you stand, you clearly have a better view of my life than I do, even though I am in charge. The fact that I am the player in this game does not automatically broaden my insight. I will obviously miss something. I am trusting you to let me know how I can play this game called life better. I am open to your advice. Help me be the best version of myself.
