People say there is a thin line between being principled and being rigid. The line is so fine that the two are often carelessly equated. I am constantly reminded of this when I see women being judged harshly for their decisions and for standing up for what they believe. Imagine a life where one spends their whole life explaining being true to themself?
There was a time I actually thought that a woman’s struggles were exaggerated. I believed that I had been misled into thinking that women have their own challenges unique from those men face.
So, for most of my life, I felt I had to prove that men and women have similar experiences. In fact, almost every decision I made was fueled by the desire to dispel what I thought was a myth.
As funny as it might sound, I discovered that none of that was a stretch. It was all true. We as women have our own struggles, and most times, we are expected to give in to everything even when it defies the very reason for our existence and our beliefs.
I remember a woman who was being pressured from every angle to get married. It wasn’t that she had found the right partner, the concern was simply her age. People around her wanted her to compromise and overlook some of her expectations but she wasn’t willing to do so. She didn’t give in, not because she didn’t want to get married, but she wanted to get married to the right guy who met her standards.
Everyone felt her standards were too high and she was being rigid, but she didn’t seem bothered by being labelled as such. Principled or rigid – whatever they choose to call you – it doesn’t matter as long as you are true to yourself.
The one thing I have learnt over the years is that we will always be judged for our decisions, our actions and our beliefs. I will not trade my beliefs just for me to gain favour in everyone’s eyes.
What really matters at the end of the day is whether I understand my own choices.
[ctt template=”5″ link=”A2aML” via=”no” ]No standard is too high as long as it is based on principle.[/ctt]
Forgive them when they pressure you to give in, they probably just don’t understand where you are coming from. But never give in on their account because you will never forgive yourself in the future.
I would rather be a principled loner than be an accepted friend with a laundry list of regrets.