Hi. I wonder if you’ll recognize me. I’m you, in about 20 years. I think you’ll be proud of who I’ve turned out to be. At least, I hope you will. The thing is, for the first time, your opinion is the only one that really matters.
There is so much I feel like I should warn you about, having been this way before and all that. However, it is because of all of my experiences that I am who I am today. Life is far from perfect, but my regrets are few. I can’t tell you what to do or what not to do. I know you probably won’t listen to me anyway! But I just want to give you a heads up on a couple of things I wish I had known back then. Use it, don’t use it. It’s really up to you. One major thing I’ve learnt is that either way, you’re going to be okay.
So, number one. You know that tiny little voice inside of you that you’re getting increasingly good at ignoring? That’s your friend. Trust her. I know you’ve heard lots of motivational speeches where they told you, “Follow your heart.” Your heart’s great, love, but it’s terribly biased and not very trustworthy. It leans too heavily toward what “feels” good and not always what IS good.
That little voice is going to tell you when a man is blowing hot air, even if everything he says makes your little heart flutter. That voice will tell you to get out of a dodgy situation even before there is any real danger. Please trust me on this. I can’t tell you how many times I have said to myself, after something has already gone down, “I had a feeling this might happen! I knew it!” Some call that voice instinct, some call it your gut, others say it’s the voice of God.
Number two, and this is so important. Eat the cake. Enjoy it. Savour every bite. Life is good and you are blessed. So you’re a little soft around the waist and your body is a little weird. I know you’re a little freaked out because you think your boobs will never stop growing! But please stop obsessing about your weight. Beautiful girl, I wish you could see yourself through my eyes. I wish you could see right now, the beauty of your body carrying your 2 beautiful children inside of yourself, breathing for them, living for them.
I wish you could see the satisfaction on their faces that I have had the pleasure to see, after a midnight feed. I wish you could see that at your heaviest, you had never felt more beautiful. It’s going to be hard to convince you, but soon you’ll realise that your beauty is not in your ideal jean size.
Third point is be kind to your mom. She’s doing the best she can. You will soon learn how hard it is to be a woman, a wife, a mom. So take it easy on the old girl. She is not Claire Huxtable, and honestly, I doubt that even Claire Huxtable is as perfect a mom and wife as Claire Huxtable. All I can tell you is, you’re about to discover what an amazing human being she is and how blessed you are to call her Mom.
It’s not always easy, but growing up can be such a beautiful journey. Enjoy the ride. I love you so much young girl. Keep your head up!