Emotional Shoveling

White winters are quite the norm for me since I reside in a land notorious for its chills – Canada. Surprisingly, when it snows, the temperature usually isn’t that cold. I realize that “cold” is a relative term depending on where you live, but stick with me.
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Anyone who lives in an area that snows knows that the best time to clean off your car or shovel the driveway is when the snow is still soft and fresh. Because when the temperature drops and the snow hardens and slowly turns to ice, the task becomes MUCH tougher.
The interesting thing about snow is that it always falls gently. No matter how much of it falls, it will never bruise your skin. The danger is when those soft-falling flakes accumulate and become slippery. The hazard intensifies as cold air sets over that snow and turns is into ice.

I don’t mean to sound flippant, but negative feelings and emotions are harmless…in and of themselves. Sorrow, pain, anger, etc., don’t often announce their arrival – they come when they come. Feelings can’t harm you unless they remain undealt with. The longer we harbor them, the more they accumulate and turn icy – transforming into a hazard that threatens to cause tremendous damage, manifested through poor decisions.
Anger is a perfect example. When it erupts into a volcanic outburst, it’s because there were many annoyances that piled up, one on top of the other until the pressure became too great to be contained, resulting in an explosion that usually claims casualties in its wake.

The best way to avoid a catastrophe is to deal with negative emotions as they come. Acknowledge them and accept them for what they are, then find a way to rid yourself of them. Sometimes a simple shovel is adequate to toss aside ill feelings; other times your emotions run so deep that you need a plow and a ton of salt just to empty your vessel of tough hazardous emotions!
It’s hard work that requires constant self-evaluation and emotional shoveling, but the health and safety of your emotional well-being depends on it.
As the New Year approaches, I have resolved to ask myself the same question I so readily ask others whenever I encounter them. “Good day, Vimbai. So what’s up? How are you doing today?” 

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