Healthy Mind, Healthy You is a weekly column written by Mental Wellness Coach Cynthia M. Each week, she will share insight on how you can be live a healthier life.
It’s interesting how the world has a culture of saying “I’m fine” or “I’m okay” when we really know we are not. We somehow are either scared to admit our true feelings to others, or the scarier reality is we don’t admit them to ourselves. We deny these feelings to others when they ask us and we deny them to ourselves when we really feel low.
I always say to ladies: We need to learn to check ourselves. This is really a ‘self-assessment’ of how “okay” you really are. Here are some everyday examples of situations that show you are emotionally unwell:
● When you see yourself going off hysterically at the granny whose trolly just hit your ankle in the grocery store
● When you scream instructions at your toddler because they just are not listening
● When a normal disagreement with a friend takes you on a downward spiral of feeling worthless and like no one in the world cares
● When your boss tells you the deadline for your next project and you have sleepless nights and constant feelings of anxiety in the entire month leading up to the deadline
If you can relate to any of this, check yourself! You see, our mind and body have a way of communicating that we are not well. So just like a rotten tooth causes a toothache, a stressed mind can cause feelings of panic, anxiety, helplessness and all sorts, just to get you to stop and handle it.
So, what does being emotionally well look like? It doesn’t look like smiling all the time and being super excited about everything. It looks like being in a healthy and balanced emotional state, not overly sad or excited but just in a calm state where you are able to handle your emotions well. When you are emotionally well, you are not just willing to feel the good and the bad but you also feel capable of processing these emotions in the right and healthy ways.
As you recognise that you are not okay, handle it! This is just to say, it’s not enough to recognise you are not okay; you also need to start doing something about it.
The journey to mental wellness is marked by the small, incremental steps you take towards starting to feel and cope better daily. So, as you start, nothing is ever too old to deal with and nothing is ever too big to handle.
We all possess the power within us to face our fears, and with some pointers from me, you will now have the tools too.
As we talk about just how to start digging ourselves out of the hole that our trauma or pain left us in, we will take a closer look at all the different aspects of the emotional healing process. I look forward to sharing more insights and being a guide as you tackle your healing journey and overcome your pain.
Until next time, remember: When you change your thinking, you can change your life.
Cynthia M is a mental wellness coach trained in psychology. She works with different individuals and groups to help them establish a more balanced state of emotional wellbeing so they can experience a better quality of life.
Cynthia M is a Mental Wellness Coach trained in Psychology. She works with different
individuals and groups to help them establish a more balanced state of emotional wellbeing so
they can experience a better quality of life.